Read about some of my successes in tracking birth families. It is great to be a part of a family reunion!
I “met” Colleen after an article in our local paper shed light on the Benjamin Kyle story. I was home due to an injury and had extra time on my hands. Colleen was very quick to respond to my emails and to engage in a conversation about my family history. I soon shared with Colleen that I had a brother who had been adopted many years ago. I have searched for him for years but had very little knowledge about the details of the adoption. My father had also looked for him for several years with no success. I never dreamed that Colleen would be able to assist me with finding my brother Brian. I had actually begun putting that dream to rest, though it was difficult as I was raised as an only child . . . and the desire to have a sibling is strong.
Colleen asked for details. I had little. I knew his name and what I thought his adopted name may be. I had his birthdate within a few days but I wasn’t sure what actual date it was. Within moments I had a reply from Colleen with his address and information. I was stunned. I had a hard time believing that she found him so quickly when I had searched for years. I questioned this and she had enough information to assure me that it was him.
Colleen was so gracious and kind! She encouraged me to contact him right away but I had deep fear about this. I didn’t know if he even knew he was adopted. I didn’t want to cause any pain in his life. I debated for several days before I used the information that she gave me to find him on the internet. I began searching social networking sites. I soon found him and his wife. I couldn’t see a pic of him . . . I wanted to know if we had any resemblance. Looking at a sibling was intriguing.
I settled on writing to Brian’s wife. I explained who I was and that I didn’t want to hurt him or disrupt his life but would love to at least have a conversation. I went to bed feeling worried and nervous. I woke to an email from him! He called me early the next morning, and after talking he called my . . . OUR father! Overnight I became a sister . . . a sister in law . . and an AUNTIE!
I can’t thank Colleen enough. I have yet to meet him due to medical issues and distance but the goal is to meet him this spring. I can’t even begin to imagine what it will feel like to see him in person. This would never have been possible without the kindness and resources of Colleen. Thank you so very much!
Thanks for the kind words Katrina. It makes me so glad to hear from you and to know how happy you are. Good to hear you are planning to meet up with your brother soon. Incredible to become a sister, a sister-in-law, and an aunt all at one time. Must be overwhelming! So maybe I have found my purpose in life. Stay in touch and let me know how it goes when you meet up with “the family”. Colleen
I will definately do that! We were hoping it would happen this month but due to medical conditions it really has to wait until early spring. We talk on the phone and facebook quite regularly though. I just can’t thank you enough for the gift you have given me!
I’ve also been looking for my half brother without any success. He was born after me and was given up for adoption by an elderly couple He is 1/2 black and lived in Bavaria. I’ve been searching for him for 15 years and keep hitting dead ends. My parents are both dead now and never gave me the information. I was 20 when I found out about him and I am now 68 .Katrina, I am wishing you all the best and am happy for you. There is hope.
When you are searching for someone like that, DNA really won’t help you unless your brother has been tested too, or if he got married and had kids who have been tested. Good luck and don’t give up!
Good luck! Keep in touch and let me know if you make any progress!
I was born 10/9/59 and put up for adoption. Would like to find my birth parents and find out if I have any siblings and find out my medical history. Was born at Mary’s Help Hospital in Daly City CA, then sent to Infant’s of Prague Adoption Agency in Fresno. Adopted by a wonderful family in Sunnyvale when I was 19 days old. My birth mom was 20 and my birth father 23 at the time. Both college sophomores….possibly at Stanford.
Sorry for taking a while to get back to you. Please write me at email@example.com, and we can talk some more about it. How much have you already done to look for your folks?
Hi Indentifinders! I am trying to find my son I gave up for adoption in 1980. I am registered with Adoption. com but have come up empty handed for the last 8 yrs. He was born 2-10-1980 at Copley Memorial Hospital in Aurora, IL. He was adopted 3 days later by a German Catholic family in their 30s, who were college educated and had already adopted a little girl 3 yrs. earlier thru the same adoption agency, Easter House in Chicago, IL. He has blond hair and big blue eyes. I named him Matthew but the adoption ladies told me the adoptive parents didn’t like my name and renamed him Mark. They also told me they were for “open adoption” and would give him the letter I wrote him when they thought he was old enough. Well, he would be 33 now! I requested a picture a year, just a headshot, to make sure he was still alive. The gave me a one yr. old picture but then reneged on the deal because I might identify him. The father and I both signed the adoption papers and both understood it was irrevocable. The one year old pic shows him wearing heavy clothes in Feb. which leads me to believe he might still be in the Midwest where it gets cold in the winter. In the pic there is also an afghan laying on a chair in back of my son. I am 64 now and retired and on ss, so have limited funds and can’t pay to track him down. I would love to see him before I die. Any help would be appreciated. Thank you, Sharon Gari.
Dear Indentifinders, My name is Andrew Scot Chambers (formally ANDREW SCOT MCGregor), I’m trying to find my brothers Kevin, David and Gordon McGregor. I was placed up for adoption in Yellowknife NWT for the second time in my life by my parents at the time Laura and Forbes McGregor. I was born Jan. 1st 1970 in Montreal Que and adopted out to the McGregor’s. I’ve made allot of mistakes in my life and I had a chance when I was in my 20’s to resolve these issues but due to the anger of being forgotten and all the terrible things that haunted me I couldn’t forgive what was done to me. Ive done allot of soul searching and forgiving and I realize now I would just like to mend our lives and maybe regain a relationship in the future. I have talked to Laura (Demers) but that proverbial ship has sailed and I didn’t get information from her. So If I could ask for your help to find these men to fix the tattered fabric I call my life I truely am at wits end.
Thank you for listening and thank you for your valuable time with this matter ….Sincerely Andrew Scot Chambers (McGregor)
Andrew, hang in there. I too am looking for a brother that was left behind during the war by my mother in Germany. I’ve also spent 13 years living in Montreal. I’m rooting for you.
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